Let's get personal for a while.
I'm the sort of girl who's always had a boy she can go to. I was five when I had my first kiss from a boy. Eight when I had my first boyfriend. But I wouldn't loose my virginity till I was seventeen and a half - six months before the goal I'd set myself for chastity.
Since then I've had intimate relationships, casual relationships, one-time things, long-term relationships, and those 'almost' relationships. I've done almost everything in the karma sutra and more besides. Learnt to flip a persons switch, make them last or make it quick... but for all that experience, and the made up fantasies, do you know what I love the most?
Kisses.
Now, maybe it's because I have a slight oral fixation, but kissing is the most wonderful (and sometimes most intimate) thing I think you can experience.
They say that a woman judges by a kiss how good a person is in bed. I guess on some level it's true - but it's more "Could I keep kissing this person while we were doing it, or would I rather forgo the procedure to avoid his lips?" if you ask me. My experience has taught me the only correlation between kissing and 'it' is responsiveness. If a guy kisses you by mimicking you, he'll do the same in bed. If he doesn't pay attention to what you want and just does whatever, he'll also do the same in bed.
But what makes a good kiss?
There are so many types of kisses that it's hard to define what a 'good kiss' is.
There are some people who have hard lips. They don't mould to yours, they just press - like teeth almost. They aren't my favourite lips to caress, but there's a technique that (if they've mastered) makes it feel just as nice.
This technique is made up of being gentle, and using the tongue. You can't closed-mouth kiss someone with hard lips. It's just not right.
Then you have those people with amazingly soft lips, that you can brush lightly, or press firmly against, and it still feels good. They're full, and touchable, very kissable.
Once you get past that main difference though, the range of kissing is still immense!
Taking from my own experiences, I've been kissed in a churning, half slobbering (unpleasant) way by a boy, who purposefully thinned his lips while kissing to make them hard. That tongue attempted to molest my lips - and failed.
Then there was the boy who never opened his mouth more than a centimetre, but managed to move just enough to make it feel nice. I'm not a fan of closed-mouth kissing unless it's short and sweet. But he managed it.
Of course, you then have the no-holding-back kissing; where your eyes are both closed and your world shrinks to the microcosm of where your mouths meet. If done right, this can be the best kiss in the world. It should start off slow, lips only open enough to cup the others upper or lower lip. Then the tongue starts to make a gentle appearance, just caressing lips, maybe touching in the middle; until finally both mouths press against each other like tectonic plates, moving each other apart to allow full access to one another. The only thing that ruins a kiss like this is lack of rhythm. Some people seem to think that once your mouth is open in a kiss it should stay that way so that you can explore inside with your tongue. They're wrong. Kissing is almost like eating the other person, in that you continue to open and close your mouth constantly. If you're going to pause in one position, it should be closed - preferably sucking gently on the other persons lip.
Then you get kisses that are just forceful. Sometimes these can convey the heat and passion of a moment, or a person - but most often they just convey the personality behind them. Forceful kissing is about getting what you want, and not taking no for an answer. If it's too hard, a yes will turn into a no; but just enough pressure will persuade many an uncertain heart. The forceful kiss is best used as a starter kiss rather than a continued one. A good forceful kiss should melt into something warm and wet if you ask me.
Of course, there's two types of forceful. There's the strong pressing of lips, which is what I meant above; but there's also the forceful kiss where two hands lightly grip your face, cupping your cheeks, drawing you in towards a soft, insistent pair of lips.
Then you get the kisses that surprise you.
I said early that kissing conveys your personality. It's half true. Kissing conveys how you feel, how you feel about a person, and who you are - as well as what the situation is. It's very personal and very intimate - very telling. So when someone who's character you think you know kisses you differently to how you expect, it can be a surprise.
One time, during a kissing (read drinking) game, a boy had to kiss me while my back was pressed against the wall. This boy was fun, a bit 'laddish', kinda cocky; but his kiss was the most gentle brush of lips I'd ever really felt. If it had been shorter, I would have just assumed he hadn't wanted to kiss me. But it lasted long enough to make my heart do one of those loud 'thumps' that it makes when someone has shocked you in a good way.
You can surprise people like that a lot. In social situations kisses are supposed to be over the top (among friends) or quick and business like... unless you're into PDA's (public display's of affection) - which I'm not particularly...
So when it's social, if you flip the charts you can really take someone by surprise. Lingering on a business-like kiss makes a person notice more. Making an OTT freindly kiss softer, gentler, but no shorter, makes a person pay attention too.
Sometimes I crave a pair of lips to just touch with my own. To feel the heat with.
I think about the people I could kiss. Some of them good, some of them bad, some of them way off limits. There's a pair out there that can take my breath away with a soft kiss, or set my whole body on fire with a deeper one. Sometimes I think that kind of effect is linked to the person more than their lips - but others I wonder.
I've been told I'm a good kisser - but it's not true. I'm a great kisser.
Confident? Yes. Over confident? Maybe.
But being able to pay attention to what makes a good kiss means that you're able to replicate it. And I'm lucky enough to have soft, full lips too.
You may be wondering why I chose to blog about kissing and lips.
You know those days when you just crave a chocolate bar, or steak and chips, or ice cream... crave it like an ache? Well, today I woke with the craving for lips.
Since I'm alone in the house, and my friends are away for the weekend, you'd think I'd be safe. But since I'm going out this evening, if the craving hasn't died by then, I may end up putting myself into compromising positions to fulfil it.
I hoped that writing about it would make me less hungry.
Instead, I'm now thinking about the perfect pair of lips that I'm not sure if I've found yet. The ones that fit mine just right, and know exactly what to do when they're there. The pair that look beautiful smiling, and have a cheeky edge to them when they think of my lips.
oh well!
Hey - at least I didn't list every single type of kiss there is, or explain them in detail! Then we both would have been here forever.
For now, I'm going to leave you with the image of supple lips, pursed and poised for action. May all your kisses be sweet ones.
Blessed Be xx
I'm the sort of girl who's always had a boy she can go to. I was five when I had my first kiss from a boy. Eight when I had my first boyfriend. But I wouldn't loose my virginity till I was seventeen and a half - six months before the goal I'd set myself for chastity.
Since then I've had intimate relationships, casual relationships, one-time things, long-term relationships, and those 'almost' relationships. I've done almost everything in the karma sutra and more besides. Learnt to flip a persons switch, make them last or make it quick... but for all that experience, and the made up fantasies, do you know what I love the most?
Kisses.
Now, maybe it's because I have a slight oral fixation, but kissing is the most wonderful (and sometimes most intimate) thing I think you can experience.
They say that a woman judges by a kiss how good a person is in bed. I guess on some level it's true - but it's more "Could I keep kissing this person while we were doing it, or would I rather forgo the procedure to avoid his lips?" if you ask me. My experience has taught me the only correlation between kissing and 'it' is responsiveness. If a guy kisses you by mimicking you, he'll do the same in bed. If he doesn't pay attention to what you want and just does whatever, he'll also do the same in bed.
But what makes a good kiss?
There are so many types of kisses that it's hard to define what a 'good kiss' is.
There are some people who have hard lips. They don't mould to yours, they just press - like teeth almost. They aren't my favourite lips to caress, but there's a technique that (if they've mastered) makes it feel just as nice.
This technique is made up of being gentle, and using the tongue. You can't closed-mouth kiss someone with hard lips. It's just not right.
Then you have those people with amazingly soft lips, that you can brush lightly, or press firmly against, and it still feels good. They're full, and touchable, very kissable.
Once you get past that main difference though, the range of kissing is still immense!
Taking from my own experiences, I've been kissed in a churning, half slobbering (unpleasant) way by a boy, who purposefully thinned his lips while kissing to make them hard. That tongue attempted to molest my lips - and failed.
Then there was the boy who never opened his mouth more than a centimetre, but managed to move just enough to make it feel nice. I'm not a fan of closed-mouth kissing unless it's short and sweet. But he managed it.
Of course, you then have the no-holding-back kissing; where your eyes are both closed and your world shrinks to the microcosm of where your mouths meet. If done right, this can be the best kiss in the world. It should start off slow, lips only open enough to cup the others upper or lower lip. Then the tongue starts to make a gentle appearance, just caressing lips, maybe touching in the middle; until finally both mouths press against each other like tectonic plates, moving each other apart to allow full access to one another. The only thing that ruins a kiss like this is lack of rhythm. Some people seem to think that once your mouth is open in a kiss it should stay that way so that you can explore inside with your tongue. They're wrong. Kissing is almost like eating the other person, in that you continue to open and close your mouth constantly. If you're going to pause in one position, it should be closed - preferably sucking gently on the other persons lip.
Then you get kisses that are just forceful. Sometimes these can convey the heat and passion of a moment, or a person - but most often they just convey the personality behind them. Forceful kissing is about getting what you want, and not taking no for an answer. If it's too hard, a yes will turn into a no; but just enough pressure will persuade many an uncertain heart. The forceful kiss is best used as a starter kiss rather than a continued one. A good forceful kiss should melt into something warm and wet if you ask me.
Of course, there's two types of forceful. There's the strong pressing of lips, which is what I meant above; but there's also the forceful kiss where two hands lightly grip your face, cupping your cheeks, drawing you in towards a soft, insistent pair of lips.
Then you get the kisses that surprise you.
I said early that kissing conveys your personality. It's half true. Kissing conveys how you feel, how you feel about a person, and who you are - as well as what the situation is. It's very personal and very intimate - very telling. So when someone who's character you think you know kisses you differently to how you expect, it can be a surprise.
One time, during a kissing (read drinking) game, a boy had to kiss me while my back was pressed against the wall. This boy was fun, a bit 'laddish', kinda cocky; but his kiss was the most gentle brush of lips I'd ever really felt. If it had been shorter, I would have just assumed he hadn't wanted to kiss me. But it lasted long enough to make my heart do one of those loud 'thumps' that it makes when someone has shocked you in a good way.
You can surprise people like that a lot. In social situations kisses are supposed to be over the top (among friends) or quick and business like... unless you're into PDA's (public display's of affection) - which I'm not particularly...
So when it's social, if you flip the charts you can really take someone by surprise. Lingering on a business-like kiss makes a person notice more. Making an OTT freindly kiss softer, gentler, but no shorter, makes a person pay attention too.
Sometimes I crave a pair of lips to just touch with my own. To feel the heat with.
I think about the people I could kiss. Some of them good, some of them bad, some of them way off limits. There's a pair out there that can take my breath away with a soft kiss, or set my whole body on fire with a deeper one. Sometimes I think that kind of effect is linked to the person more than their lips - but others I wonder.
I've been told I'm a good kisser - but it's not true. I'm a great kisser.
Confident? Yes. Over confident? Maybe.
But being able to pay attention to what makes a good kiss means that you're able to replicate it. And I'm lucky enough to have soft, full lips too.
You may be wondering why I chose to blog about kissing and lips.
You know those days when you just crave a chocolate bar, or steak and chips, or ice cream... crave it like an ache? Well, today I woke with the craving for lips.
Since I'm alone in the house, and my friends are away for the weekend, you'd think I'd be safe. But since I'm going out this evening, if the craving hasn't died by then, I may end up putting myself into compromising positions to fulfil it.
I hoped that writing about it would make me less hungry.
Instead, I'm now thinking about the perfect pair of lips that I'm not sure if I've found yet. The ones that fit mine just right, and know exactly what to do when they're there. The pair that look beautiful smiling, and have a cheeky edge to them when they think of my lips.
oh well!
Hey - at least I didn't list every single type of kiss there is, or explain them in detail! Then we both would have been here forever.
For now, I'm going to leave you with the image of supple lips, pursed and poised for action. May all your kisses be sweet ones.
Blessed Be xx
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